Loneliness, connection, and the holy art of solitude
There is a wordless ache moving through humanity now, an ache of separation. You’re probably sensing it around you… it in the specter of people hunched over their phones in public spaces, in the air at cafés where people are fixated on their computer screens, in the faces of students walking school corridors as hundreds of others swarm around them? Even amid noise and chatter, there is a quiet cry: “Does anyone truly see me?” 
Maybe you’re feeling it, too?
Loneliness has become one of the great initiations of our age. It is the shadow twin of hyper-connectivity. We may scroll through thousands of images of other lives yet we forget the intimate need to breathe and be present to ourselves. We communicate constantly but seldom commune.
But let’s remember, in all of this we’re not wrong or flawed. We’re simply being shown how hungry the soul is for genuine connectivity.
The Sacred Roots of Loneliness
When I was grappling with how loneliness has been a recurring leitmotif in my own life, Mother Mary said to me, “Loneliness is not punishment; it is the echo of your original unity calling you home.” I love that powerful reframing.
She reminded me that birth, we were woven into the chorus of creation, held in seamless belonging. Then, we entered matter, where we forgot that symphony for a time. So the longing we feel is the compass pointing us back toward that divine intimacy.
Mary Magdalene says, “When you feel lonely, you are standing at the threshold of intimacy with yourself. Do not rush away. Sit by the fire of your own company and listen. Beneath the ache lies the pulse of the Mother calling, Return to Me.”
And my Pleiadian guide Electra offers, “Loneliness is the chrysalis between worlds. You entered Earth as a star among many, yet the density of this realm makes you forget your constellation. Every moment of solitude, when entered consciously, rebuilds that stellar map within.”
The Modern Epidemic
My choir director, who works with young people all day long, says disconnection is epidemic especially among the young. Technology gives the illusion of togetherness without the nourishment of loving resonance. The human nervous system, designed for eye contact, touch, shared song, and silence, is now bathed in constant simulation.
But this crisis holds its own medicine. It is awakening a fierce hunger for authenticity, for community that feels alive rather than posed or curated. The collective soul is saying: We are ready to feel our belonging again.
The Bridge Between Solitude and Relationship
The Marys point out to me that there is a difference between being alone and feeling alone. True solitude is spacious, like a temple at dawn; loneliness is that same temple when we forget the light that still lives inside. The bridge between them is the presence of spirit ~ our spirit, divine spirit.
When you sit quietly and place a hand over your heart, breathing (as Mary once breathed, too), you cross the invisible river from isolation to intimacy with life itself. From there, all relationships, human and divine, arise naturally.
Practices for Reconnection
- Daily Embodied Presence
- Before turning to screens, step outside or place your bare feet on the floor. Whisper your name to the Earth. She answers.
- The Five-Minute Listen
- Choose one person each day and listen without agenda for five minutes. When you truly hear another, the membrane between souls thins.
- Solitude as Ceremony
- Light a candle and invite your unseen companions ~ ancestors, guides, friends across the veil ~ to join you. Speak aloud your gratitude. Loneliness cannot survive gratitude; it transforms into belonging.
- Sacred Gatherings
- Create or join circles where the invisible is welcomed ~ song circles, meditations, shared meals. The presence of the divine magnifies in community.
A Message for the Sensitive Ones
If you are one who feels the ache of loneliness or isolation keenly (as I have at times in my life), know this: you are the tuning fork of a new era of communion. Your sensitivity is the bridge through which a gentler world will enter. By honoring your own need for connection, you open pathways for others to remember theirs.
A Closing Blessing
Mother Mary wraps you now in her mantle of blue light.
Mary Magdalene anoints your heart with rose oil.
Electra traces a spiral of gold above your crown.
They say:
“You are not alone in your longing.
Every heartbeat in the cosmos is pulsing with you.
The loneliness of this world is the birth cry of a greater union.
Breathe. Belong. Remember.”
Thank you so much for this inspiration. I now see my loneliness from a very different perspective. I will remember this wisdom from the enlightened ones.
With much gratitude 🙏.
Love this, Margaret! Thank you for allowing this energy to move through you.
this is wonderful & i feel the truth of your words keenly.
thank you
Thank you, tara, for receiving my words.
Thank for this beautiful information
I will create more communion with others in my present life and ask the ascended ones to guide me in gratitude and loving kindness
Wonderful, Lyn! I am doing the same.
Thank you for this reminder.
My pleasure, Neutopia! Thank you for receiving.
Well said and beautifully expressed! In my own loneliness I find Spirit, the Angels, Mother Earth, the trees, the faeries, the animals, and of course Yeshua and Mother Mary.
Solitude is a dear friend, especially as I ripen in age.
I appreciate your lovely sentiment, Ahraiyanna, as we are all “ripening” in age.
Thank you Marguerite! Thank you Beloved Marys and Sacred Sisters! Loving this reframe. How timely and poignant. I’m going through some heavy stuff and this reminder lands perfectly. We will get through this spin cycle of the cosmic washing machine. We are not alone. The Universe has our back. Humanity will prevail!
Yes, humanity ~ life ~ will prevail! Thank you, Julia.
So it seems, indeed, to be a topic this month. I have been reading more articles, and even the meditation treatment of this month is about loneliness and isolation.
And even though I might technically live a form of isolation. For me personally I doesn’t feel like that at all. I feel more free and myself then I did when I had more people around.
For a long time of my life, I have been struggling with loneliness, not only being alone, but also feeling alone when you were in the company of other people. Also feelings of not belonging, and as if I was born in the wrong era.
And even though the researched evidence is clear that we need community. For emotional and mental health, but also physical health. That our nervous systems are, indeed, designed for that eye contact and hearing each others voices. I am not sure if that counts for all of us though, and how this works for the future when you consider personal sovereignty, and NOT giving your power away to an authority outside of yourself. Especially now that making community is more forced up.
I was reading the book mother hunger last summer, and it made clear, that when you have a healthy attachment with the main caregivers. It is indeed that eye contact, listening to voices and other interactions that is making you feel safe. But what if, the relationship with the main caregiver was not like that? And you learned from the start that people and interactions are not safe?
Where your nervous system shifts to the fight flight mode when interacting with people, leaving you depleted afterwards.
I have had regular talk therapy for I don’t know how many years, and all the therapist where explaining the importance of a solid network of people in your life by the lack of healthy family members. It made me feel worse about myself. It made me suffer bad with depression, not feeling good enough and indeed loneliness. To the point of making poor choices, to not be alone. I was not capable of maintaining friendships, romantic relationships or even healthy relationships with coworkers. It always ended in an unwanted situation and you had to cut your losses to safe that little bit left of your own sanity.
All of that changed the moment I was able to embrace my solo journey. The moment I could make peace with being alone, and doing everything on my own, the weight of the world dropped off my shoulders. Just like that. Life became so much easier, lighter, happier and more peaceful without more people in my life. Or at least, without that desperate ‘need’ to have people in your life.
The smalltalk with neighbors here and there, or in the store is enough to fulfill that ‘need’ for social contact.
It’s not a bad thing to be alone, or live in “isolation”. Especially for us people who already lived through trauma. It’s also safe and peaceful there. It gives an opportunity to get to know yourself, learn what is important to you and what you love to do. It’s also the place where you can heal from all the old wounds that are still festering behind the scenes. Without the distracting shallow clutter of current everyday society.
Even being alone at Christmas is not a depressing torture anymore.
Thank you for sharing this beautiful point of view, Evelien!