“Keep the bridges open, even if you aren’t going to cross them right now.”
– Mother Mary to Marguerite, September 2021

Humanity is really going through something right now. As awful and horrendous as it may seem, the present crucifixion time is an exquisite opportunity to completely up-level… for anyone who wants to have this initiation. It doesn’t matter what your views and beliefs are about the current situation, this can be applied wherever you are and whatever you hold to be true.

And this initiation is about engaging in clear and open communications combined with love.

I recently experienced a dear loved one seeming to be ready to give up on our relationship. This person sent me an email that at first I didn’t want to read, and then, after nearly a week, I agreed to look at. It was challenging but as lovingly expressed as possible. So I reached out to this person and I brought in the compassionate communication process from Marshall Rosenberg.

By my leading this person through it, we were able to express what we needed to, including about the sticking places regarding our beliefs. We both acknowledged that neither of us could hold the other person’s worldview. And we made some agreements about what we would do in cases of meeting in person such that we could both feel safe.

This person indicated where their boundaries and requests were, and I indicated where mine were. And we came to agreement about the zones of what we could talk about and what we would stay away from.

This is what’s happening all over the planet. We have an opportunity to keep the bridges open even though we might not be crossing them right now, as Mother Mary has told me.

The present time of agonizing division is a greater initiation into unconditional love. And the reason this division is happening in our closest relationships is because those ties and those bonds are the only things that are going to give us the impetus and motivation to get into the place of elevated love.

This process does require being able to hold that another person has different views, even what may seem to be opposing views ~ even though we might not agree. It requires that level of maturity. And then it requires being able to talk about the fact that the differences exist. And then it requires being able to hold each other in mutual respect and agree to disagree.

If the person in question is not able to meet you half way, then that is your opportunity to be in relationship to their Goddess/God Self in this way. In other words, even if you are not able to have visits or conversations or anything right now, you can continue to offer this love to the person’s soul and it will be felt. It will be helpful.

For me, personally, I have been extremely challenged over the last two weeks. I have had at least seven major things happen that have triggered me, and all of them were plucking the string of wounding in my field. Wounding having to do with abandonment, isolation, lack of support, and loss of love. I really had to look in and see what was happening.

What stirred it all is what’s stirring all of us: the great conflation of retrograding planets combined with other extremely challenging astrological aspects… plus whatever other energies are filtering through from the universe itself, and even from negative influences on our planet.

Part of it for me was that I had done a 12-hour planetary grid clearing with a group and we went to such a high level that it stirred up anything that wasn’t of that level within me. And therefore also some attack energies came in.

I was able to work with cacao and see that the attack energies were within my heart, like a fuzzy chrysalis of rat’s nest energy sitting at its center. I was able to psychically pluck and remove it, and send it away, and come to a place of love.

I was then able to look at all the situations in my life from that place of love. From there I was able to have that productive conversation with my loved one, and I reached out to two other people where a clearing of the air has been needed, as well.

All of this doesn’t make the differences go away, but it does make them more manageable. And this may be what this time is all about. To let the differences be, but to hold them ~ and their holders ~ in love.

Collectively, we have had to get to the point of believing that our lives or well-being are threatened (and those on all sides of the argument have that same fear in different outfits), in order for us to get to this level of initiation. So this is an opportunity right now.

Below are the steps of the compassionate communication document, which is adapted somewhat from what Marshall Rosenberg has offered us. See if the people in your life can take a look at it, agree to read it, and allow you to help lead them through it, step by step. You don’t have to be an expert, you just have to have the positive intention, even if it is done and perfectly.

Come on people now, smile on each other, everybody get together, try to love one another right now. Right now. Right now!

Love,
Dove

Principles of Compassionate (a.k.a. “Non-Violent”) Communication
Adapted from Dr. Marshall Rosenberg

1. A compassionate or nonviolent communication includes the following four components:

• Observation
• Feelings
• Needs
• Requests

Observation – State the BEHAVIOR you observe in the other person. What your SENSES tell you (“I notice you’re frowning”) as opposed to what you are THINKING (“You are mad at me, I know it!”)

Feelings – State your OWN emotional responses to this behavior (“I’m feeling sad, angry, frustrated, stuck, bewildered, relieved, hopeful, happy, enthusiastic, etc.”). It MUST BE AN EMOTION, not a thought, opinion, judgment, or criticism about the other person. Any sentence that starts: “I feel that YOU… “ IS NOT A FEELING! Also, “THAT IS MAKING ME FEEL…” is also not a productive statement, as nothing MAKES us feel anything; we are responsible for our feelings.

Needs – Based on the feeling you have, state what the personal need is behind the feeling (“I need to know that you love, hear, accept, understood, respect me, etc.”).

Request – State a behavior you’d like the other person to engage in that would work better for you, (what would satisfy your un-met need)? Be specific! (“I would like you to X.” Avoid, “I’d like you to BE…” Focus on what you’d like them to DO.)

Putting it all together:
I notice you didn’t call me back (OBSERVATION) And I felt hurt (FEELING)
I need to know that you care about me (NEED)
I would like you to return my calls within a day of me leaving you a message (REQUEST)

2. The listener should periodically repeat what the speaker has just said, exactly as s/he has said it. This allows the listener to know s/he is being heard.

3. The listener then has his/her opportunity to respond, using the same steps, and having his/her words repeated by the other.

4. Both parties continue to use this technique, communicating and responding, asking questions as needed, until agreement is reached about what each party is willing to do differently.